Women guilty of dicriminating against looks, too

It has long been accepted that males judge women on the basis of physical attractiveness. This has been criticized by women and enlightened men for years now. What is shocking to me is the way that college-aged women are just as guilty of this discrimination based on looks as men are.

I had hoped women would be a little more accepting of people's looks. I have heard many women say that they judge men based on personality and not on looks. Bullshit! I have seen few of those women date the ugly but warm, caring, and funny nice guy. While it may be true that women find the mind and personality of a man attractive, they still go for the good-looking man first and don't spend time getting to know the unattractive male with a great personality.

Women dismiss the idea of dating the unattractive male before he has a chance to talk to her; they do this based on his looks. It has been my experience that what women say they want and who they date are two very different things. We all have that friend that dates the assholes. Chances are she knows a really nice man that would treat her well and has been so bold as to ask her out. Yet the woman dismisses him saying, "We're such good friends. I don't want to ruin that," or some other brush-off that really translates to "you're too ugly to date."

It seems to me that this is very hypocritical. At least men admit that they are visually driven.

I realize that I am making a broad sweeping generalization and that not all women fall into this category. Now what has me upset is not that women do this, although I have been blown off or shot down based on my looks many times, but that women won't admit that they do the same thing as men do.

We have a double standard for men and women, and that is hypocritical. I am upset because of the women that feel superior to men because they claim to like personality, yet these are the same women that shoot guys like me down. The nice guy and the caring guy are the ones most hurt by this. We are told one thing about women, and their attitudes about men and women's actions say something completely different. I think the world would be a much better place if women would just admit they are visually driven and be over with it. I know that I would at least feel a little less confused and I am sure my fellow nice guys would too.

Chad Swan
Creative writing junior