Since the column on relationships came out two weeks ago, I've had many women say to me, "You must know my boyfriend!" It seems as though I put many guys on the spot with their women. Well, this week is no different. This week's column is for all the women on campus, especially those at La Paz. Be forewarned, this column will contain adult material, if you are under 18, get parental permission first . or don't tell anyone.
Men, pull out a sheet of paper and a pen, class is now in session. Today, we will be discussing sex. Not the act of having sex Ÿ we all know how to do that Ÿ but a part of the sexual experience that seems to get looked over rather quickly . foreplay! Yes, foreplay, a part of sex that for some reason some men feel is not necessary to have a good time. Let's dispel that myth today, shall we?
There are three simple rules when it comes to sex: 1) Do what it takes to satisfy her; 2) See rule #1; 3) See rule #2. Sex is not a one-sided affair. You just can't think of yourself and your satisfaction without catering to her needs. I've heard some guys say, "It's not exactly fair, women can have those multiple orgasms." The multiple orgasm should not be an obstacle, but more of a challenge. If you keep in mind the 5-to-1 rule, you should be okay. The rule is her five orgasms to your one. You may think it is impossible, but if you really pay attention to the body language she gives off, then it's a piece of cake.
"What about girls faking it?" I agree that some women can fake it, but there are certain bodily functions that a woman can control for only so long. Breathing is the basic one she can control, but the beating of her heart is something that is involuntary. The "moaning" is another she can control, but muscle contraction or twitching is more on the involuntary side in my opinion. Each woman is different, with their own set of body signals, so you have to pay very close attention to be successful. Since you will be concentrating on her satisfaction, yours will be the last thing on your mind making the entire experience that much better.
"OK, Eric, how much time should we spend on foreplay?" That is a very good question. The answer is . whatever it takes! Some girls only want a little time, while others want more. Personally, I think the best part about sex is the foreplay, so the more time spent, the better it could be.
"Well, what is there to foreplay? I mean, there is only so much you can do, right?" There are some things I enjoy more when it comes to foreplay, the thing to do is find out what she likes and go with it. Just be careful in not over doing it to the point where you are becoming predictable. The worst thing in the world of sex is being predictable. Be creative, keep her on the edge of suspense, keep her wondering what is to come.
In closing, just remember that the act of sex is a two person adventure . unless you are three or more, then I say to you . WATCH YOUR BACKS!!!!
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Peace!
Eric T. Watkins is an industrial psychology senior. His column appears every Tuesday.