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Self-help book helps those who 'help' themselves


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By Gabe Joselow
Arizona Daily Wildcat
Thursday, February 12, 2004
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Are you tired of looking up porn in the computer lab at 3 in the morning? Has a woman ever told you she'd rather "just be friends"? Or do you just have problems approaching women? You might need "The Nice Guys' Guide to Getting Girls."

The book is a self-help guide that advertises: "You can be a nice guy and still attract women!"

The title of the book comes from the popular theory that women are usually more attracted to jerks and turned off by guys who are too nice. Justin Marks, spokesman for "The Nice Guys," dismisses the myth of the jerk.

"It's only after they get the women that they start becoming jerks," he said.

The book is designed to help you become a nice guy and get women; after that, it is up to you whether you want to be a jerk.

"Ultimately we're just providing the facts," Marks said. "Here's a way you can make yourself more attractive to women. It's up to the individual guy to use it how he wants."

The original "Nice Guy" authors were a couple of losers in college who couldn't get a date. They decided to make friends with women and learn what women really look for in a man.

"It's not guys bragging about how many women they've slept with," Marks said. "It's guys who've taken a step back and made friends with women, and observed women."

The authors went out into the world and tried to pick up women. The intention was not to write a book about it, but to actually get a date. After they had compiled so much valuable dating data, they decided to become wingmen to the world.

Basically, the book teaches you how to approach women in a way that doesn't make you look like a loser or a potential rapist, but rather like any normal socially adequate human being.

An example of the type of advice the book offers is not to be a whiner when you first meet a woman. Don't go up to a woman and say, "It's so hot in here; I wish I hadn't worn this sweater. But it's so cold outside that I would have been freezing on the way over here." Apparently, lines like this aren't sexy at all.

There are tips on how to pick up women in airports and gyms. There's a section on online dating and even a chapter on oral sex, which instructs the reader, in vivid detail, on how to please his woman.

The Web site, theniceguysguide.com, also provides 40 banal questions that you can ask a woman when you first approach her, such as, "What city are you from?"

But just how nice are these institute guys anyway?

Often times, it seems they encourage insincerity when dealing with women, stating one time that we should listen to what a woman has to say and another time, as Marks said, "We don't care what comes out of a woman's mouth when we meet her. As long as she's attractive, we want to go out with her."

Nice or not, their simple advice does work. But you really should already know this stuff anyway.



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